I feel like I got duped by the hustle culture - the one you describe with six figure incomes and glossy IG shoots. I quit my counseling job to become a life coach with a spiritual twist. I spent a lot of money on programs to promote myself and web designers. I also have a husband who financially supports me so I had the freedom to try but perhaps not the motivation to hustle hard. I edited all my writing and wrote a book too! It was something I always wanted to do.
What I had to come to terms with is that I didn’t succeed. For a long time I felt like a failure by external standards. Eventually I found a place for my social media skills and volunteered to successfully build a platform on IG for a non-profit organization. What’s become most important to me at 71 is my physical, mental and spiritual health. Now It’s an “inside job.”
I hear you on feeling duped by the hustle culture and the glossy IG shoots and the empty promises of a 6 figure income Loran, as well as the feeling of being a ‘failure’ for not reaching those ‘goals’ which I’ve realized are really empty promises with ‘bro marketing’ mentality underpinning it all. I’ve been struggling with feeling like a failure myself when the TRUTH of the matter is that building and maintaining a small/solo biz is a LOT of work and nearly all small businesses suffer and rarely make it beyond a few years, likely due to the lack of support that small entrepreneurs have. But the ‘bro marketers’ know how to sell empty promises so THEY are the ones making the 6 figures off of our hopes to ‘make it big’ 🤨 If you’re interested in learning more about the dark underside of the online biz world I highly recommend looking up Rachel Kay Albers on IG who did a podcast series about the ‘bros’ and the women who promote their mindset, and I also recommend looking up Kelly Diels who writes about the ‘Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand’ aka FLEB. It’s been eye opening to read and listen to 👍🏼 In the past 2 years I’ve been seeing a new approach that is less hustle and more CONNECTION and I think the online biz world is in a revolution now and I’m definitely here for it!💪🏼💗
We have reached a new point of BIG that has become excessive and performative unlike the good old days. And, while I'd love to say it's us aging -- too many women I know feel this way. This Great Transition is history in the making. What is enough? Just had this conversation today with a new connection and writer. For me, I don't want to play big. I want to dive deeper. I want to slow down and truly engage on a small scale. Much of this is happening -- and will be happening -- offline. I'm also not sure any of us can "play big" in this kind of unjust system where the big keep getting bigger.
"I like thinking of playing big in our lives as being our full expression." Yes, to this, Andrea. And to claiming our own incomparability.
That societal yardstick and self-help industrial complex blinking banner that says: more, more, more! + that values product, popularity (perceived), platform & an impressive social media following over substance and authentic messaging? - it's like making art to peddle vs. enjoying the process of making and staying in flow. Big energy difference.
I am in the transition from small to Big. I am aware of playing small and taking brave steps to play big! I know I am worthy of the uncomfortable to play big with my gifts, talents, and perspective.
Yes! This speaks to me right now. I've been in a moment filled with doubt, and really trying to starting to see how the doubt is the discomfort of growth.
I feel like I got duped by the hustle culture - the one you describe with six figure incomes and glossy IG shoots. I quit my counseling job to become a life coach with a spiritual twist. I spent a lot of money on programs to promote myself and web designers. I also have a husband who financially supports me so I had the freedom to try but perhaps not the motivation to hustle hard. I edited all my writing and wrote a book too! It was something I always wanted to do.
What I had to come to terms with is that I didn’t succeed. For a long time I felt like a failure by external standards. Eventually I found a place for my social media skills and volunteered to successfully build a platform on IG for a non-profit organization. What’s become most important to me at 71 is my physical, mental and spiritual health. Now It’s an “inside job.”
So glad you found your way Loran + that you feel aligned with what truly matters. Yes!
I hear you on feeling duped by the hustle culture and the glossy IG shoots and the empty promises of a 6 figure income Loran, as well as the feeling of being a ‘failure’ for not reaching those ‘goals’ which I’ve realized are really empty promises with ‘bro marketing’ mentality underpinning it all. I’ve been struggling with feeling like a failure myself when the TRUTH of the matter is that building and maintaining a small/solo biz is a LOT of work and nearly all small businesses suffer and rarely make it beyond a few years, likely due to the lack of support that small entrepreneurs have. But the ‘bro marketers’ know how to sell empty promises so THEY are the ones making the 6 figures off of our hopes to ‘make it big’ 🤨 If you’re interested in learning more about the dark underside of the online biz world I highly recommend looking up Rachel Kay Albers on IG who did a podcast series about the ‘bros’ and the women who promote their mindset, and I also recommend looking up Kelly Diels who writes about the ‘Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand’ aka FLEB. It’s been eye opening to read and listen to 👍🏼 In the past 2 years I’ve been seeing a new approach that is less hustle and more CONNECTION and I think the online biz world is in a revolution now and I’m definitely here for it!💪🏼💗
We have reached a new point of BIG that has become excessive and performative unlike the good old days. And, while I'd love to say it's us aging -- too many women I know feel this way. This Great Transition is history in the making. What is enough? Just had this conversation today with a new connection and writer. For me, I don't want to play big. I want to dive deeper. I want to slow down and truly engage on a small scale. Much of this is happening -- and will be happening -- offline. I'm also not sure any of us can "play big" in this kind of unjust system where the big keep getting bigger.
YES!!! thank you Shawn. I'm with you on going deeper instead of farther. And you are so right about the world changing. I'm feeling it.
"I like thinking of playing big in our lives as being our full expression." Yes, to this, Andrea. And to claiming our own incomparability.
That societal yardstick and self-help industrial complex blinking banner that says: more, more, more! + that values product, popularity (perceived), platform & an impressive social media following over substance and authentic messaging? - it's like making art to peddle vs. enjoying the process of making and staying in flow. Big energy difference.
I am in the transition from small to Big. I am aware of playing small and taking brave steps to play big! I know I am worthy of the uncomfortable to play big with my gifts, talents, and perspective.
Cheering you on Cory!!
Yes! This speaks to me right now. I've been in a moment filled with doubt, and really trying to starting to see how the doubt is the discomfort of growth.
I love this reframe. I think living into your greatest self can be small, medium, large or even petite!
Listen to the light within you and find the right size for you in each chapter of life. Thanks for reminder Andrea.
yes! I love how you said that Pauline. :)